I've been reading a lot lately. Actually, reading is my favorite thing in the world. I would live in a library if that was acceptable. I'm reading Kyle's Cease's new book I Hope I Screw This Up. He talks a lot about the self-deprecating personal stories that we tell ourselves. I think that if we tell ourselves the same things over and over that eventually they become limiting beliefs and we live out our lives based on those beliefs.
My biggest limiting belief was that I wasn't good enough. So I found myself with plenty of people around me that would reinforce that belief. That, in turn, encouraged my raging codependency and people-pleasing. Always doing for others to make them happy and forgetting about myself. To the point of mental and physical exhaustion. Then enter the victim mentality that comes from that "Doesn't anyone see how hard I'm working?" "No one ever does anything for me". Wah wah wah. Not a good way to live.
The good news is that every single moment offers a new opportunity to change our story! Sometimes I wish it hadn't taken me until I was almost 40 to figure this out. But I know my path unfolded as it did for a reason. Changing our limiting beliefs takes PRACTICE! It starts with changing our internal dialogue. I started with basics. Being grateful. Grateful for everything. Even negative emotions. Not for the reason I was feeling them, but just for the ability to feel them. That practice of gratitude began to change my perspective on things. Over time, I slowly felt the shift inside from "I'm not good enough" to "I am enough". We are all enough! Exactly as we are. It's super important to have goals and to continue to grow and learn. I try to remain teachable. But accepting that we are enough is also imperative. Even a small practice like gratitude can make such a huge impact. For me it has. I added it to my repertoire of things I do daily to keep from falling back into the rut of limiting beliefs. So far so good :)