Basically my self worth depended on whether you liked me or not. If you didn’t then I tried harder to please you
First of all, Happy New Year!!!
2019 is going to be an amazing year! I can feel it in my bones.
I just released a new Group Coaching Program and I’m so excited about it! I spent a long time creating the content for each month along with all the worksheets.
I decided that my blog posts will line up with the topic for each month because each topic that I chose has had a major impact on my life and my personal growth and development.
Self Awareness is the perfect starting point!
Self awareness is taking an honest and open-minded look at yourself without judgement.
Difficult, I know. But if we want to learn and grow then we gotta do it.
Self awareness is a key component to emotional intelligence. The end goal is to be able to monitor our emotions and thoughts and react in a way that lines up with our core values and inner guidance.
A lot of people are reactive and impulsive in their responses. I used to be one of these people.
I had zero self awareness. I was on autopilot and my baseline was frustration and anger.
I wasn’t explosive on the outside, but I was a giant ball of inner turmoil.
I had no idea what it meant to look at my role in my life. To do a little self-assessment and see where I stood when it came to motives and core beliefs and how that connected to behavior.
It was a process that took about a year for me to dig through all the muck and mire and find my true self in there.
So where to begin you ask??
Start where you are. Make a list of words that you think accurately describe your character and your motives.
If there are things on the list that you consider negative, don’t worry! We all have room for growth.
Now make another list.
What are your most desired feelings?
Again, be honest.
Take a little time to reflect on your behavior.
Do you treat others the way you want to be treated?
Does your day to day behavior line up with your core values and character assessment?
That is basically the goal here.
Mindfulness and self awareness go hand in hand.
Mindfulness is focused awareness of the present moment while acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings and thoughts.
Practice mindfulness in your life. Be willing to look at yourself often and really connect with those core values.
Remember to be gentle with yourself. This is a process of growth and it takes time.
We never reach a point of perfection either. That’s nonsense.
But you can get to a point that your behavior is totally aligned with your true self.
I’m there and it feels really good! I know you will get there too.
I’ll be over here cheering you on :)
If you would like to enroll in my Group Coaching Program, click the button below to learn more!
My next workshop is on January 26th!
I have partnered with Amanda Jaworski, LCSW to bring you:
To Know Me Is To Love Me: Self Awareness & Self Love Mastery
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